My sons Tender Heart is Beautiful

Sometime I am reminded of the beauty of my children. This weekend I watched a movie with my kids. This is nothing new we love movies we search far and wide for ones that most overlook. I thought we found one

This movie was amazing to the point a wonderful connection with my old son was cemented in love. We just sat there at the end looking at each other (I am trying not to give it away)……….When you finish it you will know what we were doing. It was wonderful and why this movies did not get more attention I have no clue. If you get a chance watch it!

Frustration!

Warning this is a bit of a rant because I have had it up to the point of writing about it. When I sat down and wrote my first book I had dreams that it was going to sell and sell well. But I started seeing a trend that has become a bit of a concern that was raised by a friend in the Music Business and that was people love what you are doing but don’t want to pay money for it. I thought to myself Jo (singer – The Sign) can’t be right 100%. When my first batch of books came to my house I was so excited. This was my life, my struggles, my efforts and failures, all in a book. So many people were excited about if being published. That first 50 books was a real struggle to get, I pinched and saved to afford them. I could have found outside sources to help fund that part of my writing. But I did it all on my own. Then when the books came I asked and asked who wanted to buy the first 50 books that I would number and sign them because this was the only time I was going to sign and number books as I had plans to write more.

But as people said “Me… me….me” I had a list of 50 people I was over the moon that I did something I thought and was told I could never do. I started looking at the list and went out and sold about 30 without much effort, five of them are holding for people who could not afford them right away and they told me right up front. But the last 50 became a real fucking struggle to bet the people to pick up.

Here is the problem the Rub you might say. I am a single parent of 3 kids. I Don’t get child support so my income is very small and I am a writer and a student at the same time. I don’t go out drinking or partying. I don’t buy fancy things and I skimp and save to get something simple for me once in a blue moon. I would work at the same time if I could find a job that fits my already super busy schedule. I don’t waste my time on TV or shit. But when it came to my book it was a struggle. I wanted to lift my family out of a tight budget. Those last 20 books could have made so much more for us. But here I am struggling with 20 books that I signed and numbered for others because I trusted they really did want them. But I have learned now never to do this again because what some people say and do are two different things. So this week I gave up on two people and pulled out the page I had written on and sold them to a person who really did want the book.

But them what Jo said came right back in my mind people wanting shit but don’t want to pay for it. Okay I get it to a point, $15 bloody dollars for a movie that is shit and you can always trust what is said on the reviews kills you when it dawns on you you just wasted money. Then what is up with in the US a CD is $5-$10 dollars when in Australia they are sometimes over $30. I get it pisses people off when you can’t afford to support the artist because of the cost. But here I am, I’m not rich and I am not asking a mountain for a book even after a person asked for it. So why in the fuck am I chasing you…..It ends today I am not going to chase you I am go8ing to sell these books and when it dawn on you that I had a book for you and then you want it i am going to say I’m sorry I needed to buy shoes for my kid and to put food on the table. No, I am not sorry you had a chance but you kept saying you had no money. But then you posted on Facebook your wild night out drinking or that wonderful party you had at your house. My kids, bills and food comes first not our friendship.

Sorry for my minor little rant but I am sick of people bitching that people are sucking off the welfare system and not getting a job to help themselves out of the hole they are in. While I am scratching for every little thing I can do to get out of the hole and someone can’t keep their word. This is why I teach my children say what you mean and mean what you say. Have a nice day……..

Dinner tonight…

Did you know that the Cooking connect is almost halfway done…….Why not give one a try tonight and let me know what you think, you might fall in love. It’s a good night to Nachos and you know I have a great Guacamole Dip  recipe!

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Cookbook release date (possible)

I am aiming for the cookbook release date to be in April. I am in current discussions with St. Finn Barr’s to look at using it as a fundraiser for them. I will be looking at a price point of $30 donation to which $15 dollars will cover costs and $15 will be given to the school to use to better the learning environment as they see fit. I will also be working with my preferred book stores to see if they will also be willing to chip in some of their profit and I will match it to assist St. Finn Barr’s. So start saving your coins there is some wonderful Southern US Cooking, Mixed with some Pacific Northwest Soups, and Comfort foods. All of the recipes have been designed with help from children in mind.

Cooking to connect is and has always been part of our families meals and practices. We in the past have enjoyed making our home a place where others can come and enjoy good food and even better friendships. This also allows time spent at the table with no TV or distractions giving you and your family time to connect.

This idea can from a very wise woman who reminded me of the old saying “Be the change you wish to see” ~Thank you

Wow what a day

Well this was a very interesting day. For those who don’t know I am going back to school.

Surprise

This is a really good thing I have been struggling with going back to working in disability services. Because of the main reason I went into that field was due to the issues that my EX was going through I needed to understand what was going on. When in fact it is was not that. We don’t need to go into it read the book —>

When I wanted to go back to work, I could not do it. I could not be working in the field because it brought back the lies. So I started looking at what I have done in the past and that just did not appeal as well. So I did some research and came up with paying it back to the community. So to start this path off I am now going to school for Community Services. The next stage will have to wait until next year to reveal.

Lets spice up this post a bit…….

Yesterday I found myself doing something others must do when they meet me. So before I tell you what I went and did please don’t be to angry with me because even for me life is a learning process.

Here is what I did in my class I was introduced to a young man who I wrongly assumed was Transgender or Nonbinary. Shocking I was 100% wrong, in fact could not have been more wrong. This young man was 100% happy with whom he was, he just loved fashion. Now I am going to point out something here and I want you to think about it a bit. It is not a matter of an issue of being a bigot or a phobia. The world is change and walls of the binary system is changing in such a way that even I was confused. I apologised and we carried learning about each other.

In the one simple moment of time something became very clear. Maybe we are becoming a knee jerking society. Instead of stepping back and letting something new sink in we are building a wall of resistance to change.

Follow me in a walk of the grey matter (you know using our brain). There is currently a backlash of the issues of Gender and separating it from Sex. What the backlash is that many in the LGBT+, Transcommunity Supporter and medical service have been trying to change the world when it comes to the view of the word “Sex”. Last night I was listening last night to a youngman giving a speech at a university who was trying to get his point across that Gender and sex are the same thing.

Now in some ways I agree with him, but the only thing that is constant is change itself. Sometimes progression updates history and it has to be this way or else we would still be living in caves. So in the past we have said “Sex” was assigned at birth M or F. But the problem of using the word “Sex” is that since the 60’s the term “Sex” has been changing more towards alignment with “Sexuality” and the act of “Sex” itself. The issue is that using the word “Sex” in the verb form causes issues when using it as a Description form. For example Mike was born a Male which is on his birth notice and last night Mike had Sex but Mike’s Sexual preference is other men. We have just used the word “Sex” like the word “Fuck” for example I Fucking hate her, I want to put her in a fucking bucket and grind the fuck out of it. None of it is wrong but it does lead to confusion.and the societal view that you ability to communicate is that of a 2 year old (who needs his mouth washed out).

So now if we remove the word “Sex” from describing one’s birth anatomy. What can we replace it with? (BTW we are going to ignore the issue of the Binary markers at this time.) The term and usage of Gender from the Oxford Dictionary states the following:

  1. [mass noun] The state of being male or female (typically used with reference to social and cultural differences rather than biological ones):
    1.1 [count noun] The members of one or other sex:
  2. Grammar
    (in languages such as Latin, French, and German) each of the classes (typically masculine, feminine, common, neuter) of nouns and pronouns distinguished by the different inflections which they have and which they require in words syntactically associated with them. Grammatical gender is only very loosely associated with natural distinctions of sex.
    2.1 [mass noun] The property (in nouns and related words) of belonging to a grammatical gender:

English has always been blamed for being simplistic for example the different types of the word love. So if we change the word used for making what lies between the legs of a person when they are born do we then create a simplification of the English language or are we evolving the English Language? Lets try it out with the Example I gave above. Mike was assigned the Male “gender” marker at birth and last night Mike had Sex but Mike’s Sexual preference is other Men. Now lets not get into if Mike is going against God because that is not my point. What I have done is shown you using the word Gender causes no harm and can now be Firmly used to describe what is between the legs of a child when it is born. As a result we have:

Name: Mike
Gender: Male
Action: Had Sex
Sexual Attraction: Same Gender

So what is the outcome or cost of this change? Well easy Nothing. So we end up evolving the English language just a little bit to the point where we can all understand the difference of a word usage and not sound like we have used it like the word “FUCK” for fucks sake, lol.

Thank you for walking this Grey Matter path with me. I hope you have enjoyed a small smile while really looking at the word Sex in a different light.