Well Christmas time seems to be a time for people to ask questions about being transgender. So instead of addressing questions to the people directly I felt it might be wise to talk about them with everyone. So let’s get right to it.
Q: Do you have a penis still
A: Well to a point yes I do. But it does not function like most men. Hormone blockers reduce the levels of testosterone in my blood making my penis a device for waste removal only. Hard erections are a bit rare and can be painful due to the penis does not become erect on a regular basis.
Q: Do you consider yourself a lesbian?
A: Well I am a transwoman attracted to women, so yes. Though saying that does not make it easy to find dates or partners.
Q: What are the three things that being a womamazingan bother you.
A: Bras, dick pics, and people who think that I am less than a man who has the lesser skills.
Q: Why did you expose your “issues” to your children.
A: I have amazing children. I have taught them that being honest is one of the most important things a person can do. So hiding who I am is being dishonest with them. What good I have done teaching them that would be wasted. Plus every time I tried to teach them another moral I would be wasting my time.
Q: So let me get this right, you were a man who wants to be a woman and still attracted to women.
A: Okay in an over slimpified way yes. But one thing needs to be cleared up. I really never felt like a man. I did not enjoy sex like most men. I did not enjoy the pleasures of male rights. I love being maternal the connections with my children are some of the best feelings in the world.
Q: Are you sure you are not attracted to men, I can change your mind.
A: Look it is so very simple, you have to see that from the day everyone looks at another person and says “Yup, you are the one I want” it is pretty much set that is who you are going to be attracted to. Few things change change that outcome such as Hormone Replacement Therapy but on average that is only a 30%. While I will say this much I am 99% sure of who I am attracted to, the 1% is lost in confusion. But if the 1% becomes clear it will never be swayed to a person telling me they can change my mind or show me dick pics.
Q: Are you ready to face life alone due to your choice?
A: Okay let’s clear this up. Being any part of the LGBT+ spectrum is not a fucking choice. I did not wake up one day when I was 6 years and say to myself “Hey, I know what I need for my future. That is to be marginalised, abused, lose rights, and all round treated like a second class human by family, friends and people I don’t even know. Let’s do it” Now for the second part of your question “Alone” hmm in so many ways I don’t want to be. It comes down to a matter of numbers and I will try to explain. Let say that in a row of 1000 people, 800 of them are Hetrosexual (M attracted to F) leaving you with 200 who are not. To make this easy let reduce the pool of people once more 99 are Gay men (I am not a gay man). 99 are Gay women ( I am part of this group) 2 are asexual (does not care for sex or is not working in that issue).
So back to my 99 of those women it can be safe to say that about 25 of them are in some sort of a relationship. Another 25 are simple not attracted to you leaving you with 49 people in a town of roughly 100,000 people. Good luck!
So being alone is a possibility do I want it this way no, do I have a choice ummm no. I make the best of my situation, I focus on my children and my goals that I have set for myself. I don’t have the time or energy to suffer fools. If a person want to be with me that will be in that 49 or even less due to laws of attraction. If I die alone then that is that and I have made peace with it. I hope I have answered your questions even though my numbers might be a little screwy but I am sure you get the point.
Q: When will you get the surgery?
A: When the time is right and things are okay for the change. In the end I will make the choice based upon many factors that most people do not understand.
Well to be honest there is going to be a part 2 to this post as I am tired of answering the many questions that are piled upon my desk. Though I do have one more to leave you with.
Q: I am 14 years old and I think I am Trans MtF, I want to tell my dad and mum but I am not sure how to. BTW they think I am Gay.
A: Look thank you for reaching out. I know Christmas time is hard. In the end you know your parents best. Trust your gut and make a choice based upon those feelings. Don’t rush this choice, sometimes taking your time is the best thing you can do. Talk to a professional for help if you are not doing so now. Treat them like you want to be treated with Respect. I hope you have a wonderful bond with you parents. With all the love I can send you, all the best. You are welcome to keep sending me emails, I promised I would answer them and I will.
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