I shared this on my FB. But I love it so much I think more should have a chance at reading it. When I was younger I struggled with my view of self. I could not enjoy who I saw in the mirror and it only got worse as the years moved on.
When I made the choice to step out of the shadows I lost so many people that I once counted as friends and loved ones. I was really shocked about the response to my honesty about “ME”. It had no bearing on anyone other than me and my children. So many others wanted it to be about them. Some even told lies about me. I was still the same person that helped others when they asked for it. I was still the same person who opened my home to feed others. There was nothing really new except that I look different. It was really sad to have that happen. My heart was really broken when someone that I helped so much started to attack me publicly. I was so hurt I could not see a rhyme or reason for their attack other than they were always filled with hate for others who were different than him. The sad thing was his children are severely disabled. I wonder if his hate for what happened to them was just directed towards me.
I hear these same stories over and over again. So many in my community are angry with all the constant attacks that we have to defend ourselves from. Can you blame a community for being angry when so much hate is directed towards them (i.e. The black community). I am concerned that the truth about being Transgender is being lost in the defense of who we are. We are becoming outwardly angry about the constant attacks from the bigots.
There is so much beauty in a person who knows who they are inside and outside. It matters when you understand your true self. I only wish so many others in and out of my community could find that sense of peace. It matters in life to be at peace with your view of “Self”
In the information age where every person has to opportunity to rise above their station in life. We also tend to be keyboard warriors. I am solidly shocked that I have been called a name. Even so shocked that I was called this that I questioned the persons age. Maybe not my best reply… “What are you 10”
So lets look at what I was called, truscum. Which is a derogatory term for a person who supports the validity of the need for the medical involvement in being diagnosed as Transgender vs. self-identity. Confused yet? I had to look this up…
So setting the record strait there is a HUGE damn difference between receiving a diagnosis and self-identifying. Which also means we should treat these individuals differently as well. When children say “I am Batman or Wonder woman” it does not make them so. But we allow that child to explore their dreams and fantasy in those ideas. So should be the same with those who self-identify. But we should advise for them to see a professional for their future health. There are huge risks in self-identifying as foolishly many of those feel that they can also be their own doctor and seek to use medicines without those supports in place. placing their health at great risk.
There are also mental health issues that mimic Gender Dysphoria and Gender Incongruity. Now for those who don’t know that there is a trend that is gaining support among professionals. With the use of Gender Incongruity for those who are not showing signs of Gender Dysphoria. But they are identifying as Transgender. So meaning you can have Gender Incongruity with or with out Gender Dysphoria.
Next we need to look at calling people names. It is very Juvenal to begin with and is also a way to divide and conquer a community from within. Yes there are those of us who support the medical diagnosis as a requirement for being Transgender. We also understand that not everyone can afford to see a healthcare professional and self-identifying is a reality of the modern age. But I reiterate that self medicating is NOT SAFE and should be avoided at all costs. We are talking about your physical health.
Furthermore, if you self identify you should look into seeing a mental health professional. This is one of the base requirements of medical transition should you chose that in your future. As well as helping you face the challenges of being Transgender. Understand that being Transgender is NOT a fashion statement and will change your life in many ways that you cannot prepare for. I wish you all the best in your journey but lets avoid applying stupid names that divide our community.