Another page to be coming soon…

Over the last few years I have met some AMAZING people who are in or who support the LGBT communities here is Tasmania. So I came up with this idea to Interview them and let you get a chance to know these wonderful people as well. So the page will be called The Interviews! I know this is a very basic name but it is to the point please keep your eye out for it.

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Trans and the Body perfect

Well I thought I would take the time and talk over the issue of Body Imagery and Transgender. Over the number of years I have seen several different styles of those of us in Transition mainly M2F. I have stated in the past about Clothing and the Transition in other posts. I am not going to be talking about that at this time. What I am meaning is the issue of the way we look at our bodies.

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The problem that I have with my GID that I assume that others in the M2F spectrum might have as well is what we want and what we have. While most of the GID issues can be resolved by HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) and or SRS (Sexual Reassignment Surgery), we are still left with seeing the bodies of genetic females that most of us will never obtain the desired outcome. Unless we have the budget of the Kardashians. There are ways to raise the much needed cash for these issues but some of those require the loss of our dignity. So many have walked this path and even some of them have even lost their lives to the choice that they have been forced to make.

So where do we go from here? What can be done to assist the youth before this point is reached? These are questions that I pose. I have not seen much movement toward the reduction of the loss of life except by those in the LGBT communities and a few fringe groups.

As for ourselves we need to look after those that are young and struggling with advice care and understanding. Slowly the world is changing for the better but we can only take baby steps and guide with gentle hands. As for the issues of body Imagery if we look at the above description we can see that every woman has different shapes and we also fight the media pressure that we should fit into the perfect mold. We use diets, shapewear, to even starving ourselves. When we should be looking at the issues of Good health with Treats on the side. Regular fitness practices as well as looking after our mental health.

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I will leave you with this finial thought. We are all going though a journey in one form or another. It does not matter if you believe in a god or what have you. The path to the end is only done in two ways the easy which requires very little thought and is designed. There there is the path that is less taken. Which will strengthen your soul and define what you are though of when you leave this place and I firmly believe that in the end what you make of yourself is what you will take with you when it is all over. Don’t stress on the small things and don’t settle for the easy ones as well.

Local support for trans-friendly venues

Today at the Launceston Boardmills market. Coffee with friends.

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Fun and friendly vendors. With wonderful opportunity to catch up with old friends some who I have not seen in years. It was great to see Vic from Sexual Health who more than she will ever know saved more than just my life.
A new vendor who brought her stall of shoes.

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Oh I am in heaven real raised doughnuts from another vendor.

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Bad photo sorry. But look at these.

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Oh I gained some hips just looking at them.

Oh there was this person who brought in her bags. All hand made wonderful colours.

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Oh then there is this fresh veggies stall.

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I will say that this while simple and still In baby steps it has a charm to it that others are lacking that are doing the same thing.  There are maybe 20 stalls but if the loving care of the owners continue who knows what will happen. I do love this place.

Let’s talk about the owners.  Both are very happy and friendly souls. Very kind hearted people. The venue has areas for hire. With a stage and lightning abilities. The site is very underused by the public.  Some of it might be to using word of mouth advertising can be a bit slower than other forms.

So last thing to say is this. It you can take a Saturday and come have a coffee and fall in love with this little gem of a market.

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Please let me twist your ear to enlighten your heart. We are the broken hearts, we long for the love that will fill our days and comfort our nights. We watch all the shows, as well as the couples passing by. They that get held as we the alone cry. Time will come so they say, we perfect our hearts day by day. For the sun to rise our hearts to swell. We will walk out of this alone and what seems an endless hell. Love grasps our hands a new story to tell.

The misadventures of Tucker and Fin

I was trying to find something a little lighter to write about yet still be a transwoman issue or something similar about my life. Please enjoy the following.

While walking with a girlfriend we came up on hiding the sausage and beans aka Tucking.  While I am not going to tell you how to do it.  The following does happen. Sometimes it can even make a sound.  Every transwoman knows that feeling just before it happens. The sinking feeling of the dreaded pop.  Yup you guessed it one of the beans has come loose. The next part to the misadventure is the feeling that you have willingly just reached down in your throat and grab you own Balls and pull. It is at this point you start to understand just how fast you can find a way to hide and adjust the issue.

Mind you there is something worse than the Tuck giving you a wake up call. It is the point the you have gotten dressed and are ready for the evening and are just about to step out with your best friend or partner has pointed out that you have come completely untucked and surprise there is a lump in the front.

Lets not forget the fun of tucking to begin with the “first tuck” OMG my balls have just been squished what the hell was I thinking.

Hmm taping is an idea……Yeah lets take a sensitive part of the body ad some adhesive to it and then later take it off hoping that it does not hurt, Bahahaha. No I have not tried that.

Smaller undies that does help a bit and less change of causing a rash. Until the first problem I talked about.

Oh the walk of the untucked surprise where it looks and feels like Big foot in a dress.

 

The fun of tucking……..

Making choices

Hello and have a wonderful day!

I was talking to a friend last night as we went over the things I am trying to teachaward my children. I am trying to make sure that the morals that all the other children in out family have had to live under don’t change. As well as some that I have found to be so very important. I was told once again how very special our children are. How lucky I am to have them in my life.

Well despite this past week having so many ups and downs we have pulled through it just like the champs we are. I forget that seeing my children day in day out tends to place blinkers on me thinking I have to work on this and that with them. But after conversations and friends and other who meet our children all seemed to be very amazed that they are not brats.

The children started school this week. With all of there teachers some new some I have known from last year. I can’t say enough praise from St. Finn Barrs School. They last year went the extra mile with our family and helped out so very much with all of the fees and uniforms. I am even more amazed with how they asked me to come in and meet with all the teachers to explain “Transgender” and my life. I look back and after talking with those that are like myself this was such a rare thing to have done none of us have ever seen this happen. If you have not figured it out that our children attend a Private Catholic School this make what took place that much more amazing.

Now to be honest I still get the funny looks from those who have not taken the time to get to know me. But from many of the teacher who have met me even during the summer holiday when we bump into them I am treated with respect and kindness even if the children are not with me. I will not say this is because my children are at treat school. It is more like these are wonderful people. Who just happen to be teaching my children.

I was reading in one of my many Facebook groups that someone posted an offer for any homeless Transperson who need a place to help get them on their feet they would be happy to help. Then I said if some one was needing to be fed my home always is a place to get a meal. I am amazed at how many so-called Christians are not will to go this far, yet verbally attack others. I think they are missing the point of the many teachings.

open-clip-art-book-open-clip-artRemember I am starting to work on my Transition book soon I will be adding my 5th month on HRT and what has been going on. so keep an eye on the “My Book” section.

Remember be kind to one another!

 

Did you know……

As a parent I tell my children on a regular basis that they are special, beautiful and loved. I love their reactions to these simple yet magical words. I love watch people being Trans I tend to challenge the norms of society. But are we as society missing what should be the norm. To be this video speaks more than words ever do. I was amazed at this video and though I would share it with you